Archive for March, 2011

How to Pick Up Women the Right Way

Ever wonder why some guys know how to pick up women, but you just can’t seem to get it right?

Picking up women isn’t exactly rocket science – any guy can learn how to do it well if they just put in some effort and develop their game. However, it’s important to know what you need to work on and what is holding you back.

Your game can be broken down into 3 main categories:

1. Your mindset (or your inner game).

2. Your lines and social skills. Knowing what to say and how to react in different situations.

3. Your appearance. As much as we don’t like to admit it – society (and women especially) still judge men on their physical appearances.

No matter where you’re at right now, all three of these things can be improved to the point where you’re pulling girls left and right. Let’s break them down a little bit more.

How important is your mindset when picking up women?

Very. In fact, I would say that at least 80% of approaching and meeting women is in your head. Lots of guys who’re starting out or who have poor success rates with women tend to put a negative spin on everything. If you think you’re going to fail, then you know what? You will fail, plain and simple.

In a nutshell, you don’t need to have a giant ego around girls or anything like that. But, in your head you need to at least be focused on positive outcomes. You need to expect that good things will happen when you go out and meet women. It sounds cheesy, but you need to expect that good things will come from the woman you’re talking to, good things will come from the people around you and that good things will come from you.

If you’re thinking “Man, that chick is just too hot for me. No way will she ever give me her number.” then you’re doing it wrong. Wayne Gretzky said “You miss 100% percent of the shots you don’t take” and that’s true in sports and with women.

So instead of focusing on negative outcomes when you go out to pick up women, be positive and expect positive results. Now, I know that even if you have the best games and lines in the world, you’re not going to pickup chicks with a 100% success rate. That’s reality and that’s fine. However, you gotta have it in your head that even if a lady shuts you down, then you’ll be fine with it.

Drill this into your head right now: even if a girl rejects you, you’ll deal with it like it’s nothing at all.You’ll learn from the situation and use it to do better with the next woman you meet.

The Best Lines for Picking Up Women

There’s lots of stigma against guys who used canned and rehearsed lines to meet women – and I’m not quite sure why. It’s true that you want to sound natural and spontaneous when you’re talking to girls, but in lots of cases it’s totally okay to use a well-practiced line to just break the ice.

When you’re just starting to improve your game, there are 3 simple pickup lines that are good to get your feet wet. They also have pretty good success rates

Here’s the first one:

1. Find a girl who looks bored or isn’t preoccupied with someone or something. Women that are rushing to work, lunch or the store aren’t the easiest to approach sometimes. Look for a lady who might be waiting for a friend or just killing time.

2. Go up to her, make eye contact and drop this line: “Hey, you’re pretty cute and I had to come over and meet. I’m in a big rush, but I’d love it if I could have a chat with you sometime. What’s your number?”

3. Get her number and call her in a day or so.

This is my favorite line to teach beginners because it works and requires very little effort or risk on your part. Why is it so good?

First, you complement the girl by saying “you’re cute.” Women love complements and it’ll get her attention. It’s also a pretty neutral thing to say and isn’t creepy or cheesy.

Second, you let her know that you’re interested in meeting her. You put your intentions right out there and will find out right away if she’s interested or curious. You won’t waste your time or hers.

Third, you ask her number and get out of the pickup situation fast. By letting her know that you’re busy, you’re avoiding what could be boring small talk.

These three reasons are why this pickup line is one of the greatest and easiest for guys to learn. And it really is effective! Even if you don’t get her number, if you practice this line a couple of times a week, it’ll help boost your confidence so that you can try more difficult lines on hotter women.

Situational Pickup Lines

Now, this beginner line is just one of my favorites. As great as pickup phrases can be, the real fun and profit comes when you start to develop “situational techniques”, which should be the ultimate goal of any guy who wants to really learn how to pick up women.

What are these situational lines? You learn to use the situation and the things around you to create awesome conversation starters and lines on the fly. Signup for my course below and I’ll get you started on some of them (they’re too good to post in public ).

How important are your looks when picking up women?

Very. Or not at all. It depends on how you look at it.

While most women love to gawk at fit, built and handsome men, the reality is they’ll happily date an average-looking guy as long as he’s got it together.

Let’s break this down a bit:

You don’t need to look like a model, but there are a couple of things you gotta keep in mind if you want to improve your attractiveness.

First, be clean. Lots of guys don’t need to hear this, but just shaving and getting a proper hair cut will help you out tons. If you go out looking like you just rolled out of bed, then the ladies will think of you that way.

Second, pay attention to how you dress. Still wearing Metallica t-shirts and sagging, baggy jeans? That’s cool if you’re in high-school, but if you want to attract classy and gorgeous women you’ve got to step it up a bit.

An easy way to fix this is to simply buy clothes that fit well. Here’s an article that explains is much better than I ever could (it about business wear, but the same guidelines apply to casual clothes). You don’t need to invest thousands of dollars in designer clothes, but pay attention to the guys that are around the women you want to pickup the next time you go out. Chances are they’re wearing dark jeans aren’t stupid-baggy and either polos or dress shirts that don’t fit like balloons.

All set with mindset, lines and your dress?

Great, let’s look at a few other points to help you get some numbers ASAP

First, always make eye contact when you approach a girl. As tempting as it is, don’t glance down her shirt or at her legs — keep your eyes on hers. Eye contact shows her that you have confidence and are mature. Most women know that if a guy is too busy checking out her body, then he’s only interested in one thing (and is a failed PUA! Regardless of your intentions, eye contact forms the first bond that will help you pick up women successfully.

Second, don’t pile on the free drinks and cheesy compliments! Guys with good game know that women need to earn these “rewards.” If you keep complimenting her and buying her stuff, then she’ll catch on quick and just use you for free goodies all night long.

Third, if she’s in a group of other girls, then only focus on her! You’re trying to pick up one girl, and if you spend too much time checking out and talking with her friends, then she’ll understand that you’re just trying to pull. Obviously you want to be polite and acknowledge her friends when they’re talking, but avoid giving them too much attention. When women are in a group, you need to pick your mark before you even approach them.

Forth, read her body language and know when to let her go. Picking up women isn’t always going to work — and you need to know when your tactics aren’t working and it’s time to move on to “greener pastures.” If she starts to get irritated with you or things are going nowhere, then politely excuse yourself and move on to the next chick before things go worse.

Finally, lots of guys seem to think that nightclubs and bars are the only places to learn how to pick up women and girls.

These places can be great for finding cheap one-night stands, but if you’re interested in more than that you’ll have to branch out. The loud environments of bars and clubs can make it downright impossible to have a decent conversation, plus you’ll be competing with tons of other guys. Coffee shops, stores, libraries and other places can all have gorgeous women too. Once you develop your game, you’ll notice that it’s easy to apply it to all different situations with decent success rates.

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How to Pick Up Girls Using Your Inner Game

Lots of guys are clueless and don’t know how to pick up girls.

To get straight to the point: pick up and seduction skills can be learned by nearly every single guy if you actually take the time to practice a few techniques.

How many times have you seen some ugly-ass dude with a smoking hot chick wrapped around him? Ever wondered why you can’t do the same?

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He's got a girl, why don't you?

The biggest mistake men make is not having enough confidence when trying to pick up girls. Chicks can sense your lack of self confidence the minute you open your mouth. While you might sometimes get a date, your success rate is probably pretty low.

So what can you do? Check out these stupid mistakes most guys make when taking to girls. Acknowledge and erase them from your game!

First, never open up with a yes/no question. “Mind if I sit here?” “Can I buy you a drink?” “Do you come here often?” All are terrible openers! Your goal is the get her talking and have an interesting conversation.

Second, always go for eye contact with her. Girls love it when a guy can speak to her and keep his eyes locked on hers. It shows maturity and will set you apart from all the other guys that are trying to pull her. Now, you don’t need to stare her down, but try to spend 75% of the conversation making eye contact.

Third, skip the job interview questions. You know, the stupid stuff that goes nowhere: “Where are you from?”, “Where do you work?”, “Seen any good movies lately?” and other mindless questions that are never interesting.

Instead, try to get her opinion on something. For example, most girls love sappy movies. Tell her that a friend was asking you for recommendations for a good second date movie and you want her opinions on the best romanic comedies. This approach works great, but you have to prepare yourself ahead of time and know a few things about the subject so you can actually discuss it with her.

Finally, always be ready to let her go. Once you’ve got her attention, you need to show her that you’re not a clingy guy. Don’t be afraid to step outside to make a phone call or go to the bar and chat up the bartender for a few minutes. If she’s really interested, she’ll come over your way again soon. If not, then go back to her in 10 minutes with another good, interesting topic and keep chatting her up.

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How to Approach a Girl Like a Boss

There are so many gorgeous women in the world – and wouldn’t it be great if you knew how to approach all of them and have a quick chat?

Unfortunately, lots of guys get pretty anxious when it comes to approaching women and miss out on tons of chances to pick up chicks. But, the good news is that just like everything else in life, how to approach women can be taught! There are three different methods that we use to talk to the ladies, but before we get into the details, here’s something to keep in mind:

Get in the right mindset for chatting with girls

Going up to women and talking to them is mostly in your head. It’s all about your mindset. If you tend to be negative and think “There’s no way she’s going to speak to me, she’s way too hot for me”, then you’re losing the battle before you even start.

As cheesy as it sounds, thinking positive thoughts when you go out is key to getting you in the right mindset for having success with women. So, focus on positive outcomes. Think to yourself: “Hey, I’m gonna go out and chat up a few women. Maybe they’ll be interested in me, maybe they won’t be. At least I get the chance to say a few words to them and get acknowledged.”

Keeping positive thoughts will do a lot to cope with the anxiety and nervousness that come with talking to women you don’t know. However, a little bit of anxiety is perfectly okay. When you talk to a girl for the first time, both you and her get an instant emotional rush – it’s exciting for both of you! Excitement is great because it gets both of your hearts pumping a little bit faster and creates some instant emotional contact between the two of you. So stay positive when you go out and don’t worry too much about killing off all of your nervousness and anxiety.

The Warm Up Before Approaching Women

So now that you’ve got a positive mindset, it’s time to get out and warm yourself up. An athlete doesn’t run out on the field and expect to play a perfect game, does he? Neither should you! When you go out to pull chicks, you need to spend a few minutes warming up your social skills and attitude on the way to the bar, club or where ever. I actually recommend using these warm up tricks whenever you go out: you never know when you’ll run into a gorgeous gal, so get in the habit of preparing yourself for the pull.

To warm up, you walk around and try to make eye contact with some cute girls. You can smile or wink at them if you want or just make some small talk with a store clerk or coffee girl. They don’t need to be the hottest girls or even women that you’re interested in. The point is just to start with the basics and get yourself in the zone.

It sounds simple, but if you do this for a solid 15 – 20 minutes, then you’ll start feeling more confident and be ready to approach the women that you really want. So do it and make it a habit every time you go out in public.

3 Ways to Approach and Talk to Women

Line 1 – The Busy Guy Line

One of my favorite lines to use on a girl is one that sets you up for just a quick conversation and gets straight to the point. It has worked many times for me and if you’re just starting, then it’s a good way to practice because you don’t have to think too hard and it won’t take you more than 1 minute.

First, find a girl who isn’t too busy. She can be hanging around waiting for the bus, window-shopping or checking something on her phone. The key is to find a girl that looks bored with herself: she’s got nothing to do and probably won’t mind it too much if you came up and talked to her.

Next, go up to her and try this line: “Hey, you’re so cute and I had to come over here and say Hi. But listen, I’m really in a hurry and would love it if we could meet again. What’s your number, maybe we can get a coffee later?”

This method has a few good things going for it: first, you give the chick a complement and tell her that she’s cute. Girls like will eat that up. Second, you let her know that you’re in a rush, but want to get to know her. Third, you cut right to it and ask for her number.

What will happen is she’ll be really surprised and flattered by your complement and if you look neat and clean then she’ll probably give you her number. If you want, you can change up the line and ask her for an email instead, but I like to go for the phone number. It’s a quick and painless line that will give you a rush the first few times you try it if you’re not used to approaching random women on the street. So give it a try and then call her in a day or two and set up a date.

Line 2 – The Eye Contact Approach

The next approach is a combination body language and line. It works like this: when you’re out and about, you make eye contact with women around you. Find the one chick that holds her gaze and doesn’t just glance at you and look away.

Next, go up to her and try this: “Hey, I saw you from over there and you seemed interesting, so I wanted to come meet you.” From here, there’s lots of ways you can go: you can straight up ask her name, where’s she’s from, what she’s doing, blablabla. Or, you can go with a playful approach and ask her why she was looking at you like that. She’ll probably react with a surprised “What?!” and from there you can take things where ever you want.

With this second approach, you can also use part of the first line. If you’re having trouble directing the conversation, then just drop in the “hey, you’re cute and I liked talking to you, but I’ve gotta run. Maybe we can finish this some other time? What’s your number?” Try to close the deal and get her digits so you can set things up for later. Sometimes, you’ll try and approach and it’ll be an ideal situation to take her on a quick coffee-date then and there. If you can’t set something up immediately, get her number and move on.

Line 3 – The Surprise Flirt

The third line I like to use can work with outgoing, spunky-kinda chicks, but other girls will just get weirded out by it. However, it’s a fun way to get things rolling and can help you learn how to create and steer a conversation if you’re new to this stuff.

So what you do is find a cute girl, go straight up to her and say “Hey, you look friendly/cool/interesting. Are you?” Chicks usually laugh it off and say “yes, of course I am!”, which you can then use to lead into basic stuff like “what’s your name”, “where are you from”, “what kinds of foods do you like” and so on. It’s a solid approach that works because it gets both of you instantly excited and emotional. You can then use this excitement to create more tension between the two of you or you can drop in line 1, pretend you’re busy, get her number and move on.

I really like this approach because it lets you quickly judge her personality by her reaction to your question. I like the girls who laugh it off or come up with a witty answer. You can have lots of fun with this one, so get out and try it!

What’s Next? Advanced Situational Lines for Approaching Girls

These three pickup lines form the basis for lots of my ways to approach women. As great as they are (and they really do work), they can sometimes get boring if they’re the only three arrows in your quiver. However, they are absolutely the greatest place to start if you’re new to the game.

Once you get comfortable with these three approaches or if you feel theses are too “canned” and predictable, then you’ll want to learn situational approaches. Learning these methods is by-far the greatest way to improve your success rates with girls and be able to pick up women who don’t react well to standard approaches. If you want to get the inside information on pickup lines, inner game and these situational methods, then sign up for my mailing list below and I’ll hook you up with the goodies.